i remember how when i was younger,i would always try to talk things out with my friends in the hope that it will build the relationship and make it stronger.but this was only done in church where closer frens COULD be found.

However, pple were rather sensitive and wld usually try to avoid such 'talks' and not resolve issues. My form of communication was a tad too 'harsh' in their dictionary. Den....someone suggested I used email instead.but when i did that, the person obviously wasn't open to constructive critcism or maybe i sounded too 'harsh' and it was humiliating and a form of disrespect to the person.

It was until the loss of some really good frens that I stopped this form of resolving issues knowing it was no use. I lost this trait that wld have come really handy at work. It was a valuable asset.

I had lost my most impt strengths when i needed it most - the strength to speak up when things were not right, the strength to be firm and not be bossed ard and the strength to resolve issues by talking things out.

And so...it caused really bad tension in my previous office....and now,we have this super emo person in this team whom everyone tried so hard to accomodate.Until ytd,this person decided to call everyone up...and me...losing my trait decided to AVOID the situation by not picking up the call. and yes. after she spoke to another colleague, she text me to say she wanted to speak to me and to apologise for the many harsh words she had used on me without realising it. My initial reaction was "huh??do we have to talk?why can't we just pretend nothing happened and just be like friends?"

den as i was thinking bout it before i went to sleep, i realised how NOONE has ever tried talking this way to me and even wanted to apologise to me.I am usually the one who made the 1st move in resolving issues,and none of my frens wld have apologised to me. I realised this is truly how a friendship works - tt pple talk,resolve and apologise when things are wrong. I saw the good side of my team as well. When things go wrong, everyone is for everyone,and we're not in this alone. we all spoke to her and tt's when she realised what went wrong. I've nv felt so close working in a team before...and efforts are made to even hang out together for some team bonding after work. We see each other everyday,8 hrs each time, but yet...it is nv enuff. That's what I call...friendship. true colleagues. I'm enjoying every momentof my time with my company and my team and I truly thank God for all tt has happened thus far.

I may have lost some trait and strengths,but i believe that all things work for good to those who love God. I know he meant well when i had to go thru certain pains in life and I know that at the end of it, i'll emerge a victor.

I'm sorry if i've been sounding emo and negative of late...but really...i'm trying to be optimistic as much as i can.not very negative now already. Cheers guys!
xoxo, on